Finding a Category to Work In
After you have identified the block to success that you want to clear, you can use this
section to choose a category to work in.
You can look for the negative issue that you want to remove or the positive trait that you
want to use to replace it. The best category will contain at least one positive emotion,
action or belief that is close to being the opposite of what you identified as a block to
your success.
Another way to find the right category is to use the Truth Technique and test for which
category you should work in. See the discussion of the Truth Technique in the section
"TruLove Living and the Truth Technique.’
Forgiveness:
Forgiving myself; forgiving others; forgiving God
Accepting forgiveness from others and from God
Choosing to think about and focus on the best in myself and others
Not taking offense
Not being harsh
Not judging unnecessarily
Not being bitter
Not being resentful
Healthy Actions:
Choosing to imagine, think about and do things that are rooted in truth, love, and consistent with your calling in life.
Choosing to turn off or heal images that are rooted in selfishness or deception, and are love substitutes that achieve only temporary positive feelings.
Giving truth and love priority in your heart over your 5 senses.
Giving people priority in your heart over stuff.
Being content to be and be seen as who you truly are.
Living with joyous abandon, given to love, truth, and your calling in life.
Not gratifying myself with pleasing my senses.
Not gratifying myself with accumulating possessions.
Not gratifying myself with presenting a false image to others.
Not protecting myself from pain by avoiding close relationships.
Not protecting myself from pain by avoiding uncomfortable situations.
Transforming Beliefs:
Love: I am loveable, significant, and whole.
Joy: I am a person of worth regardless of any circumstances. I have unbounded hope for the future.
Peace: Wonderful things are in store for me. My future is not tied to the past – I am free. I am ALWAYS OK.
Patience: Even though I am always learning, growing and getting better, I am satisfied and content right now.
Kindness: I love everyone. Everyone is different, but all have worth and value. I want more truth and love relationships.
Goodness: I am good, forgiven, clean, and built for love.
Trust: I will receive all good things by surrendering to love and truth. I can lay down control. Life is not always fair – fairness is overrated – I want love.
Humility: I don´t have to try to be someone I´m not in order to be loved. I will believe and live the truth of who I am.
Self-Control: I am capable. I can do it. I don´t have to get others to do it for me. I have a say over my life.
Limiting Beliefs:
Love: I am unlovable. I am insignificant. I am flawed.
Joy: I am hopeless. I am worthless. Life is hopeless.
Peace: Something bad will happen. The future will be like the past. I´m not OK.
Patience: Something must change right now for me to be OK.
Kindness: People will take advantage of me. People are too sensitive.
Goodness: I am bad. I am not good enough. I am unforgivable.
Trust: People are out to get me. I must be in control. It´s not fair.
Humility: People must think well of me for me to be OK.
Self-Control: I can´t do it. I am not capable. Others should do it for me. It´s not fair.
Love
Positive Experiences: Forgiveness, significance, Compassion, empathy
Healthy Actions: Loving myself and others. Being committed to the truth.
Transforming Beliefs: I am lovable. I am significant. I am whole.
Negative Experiences: Unforgiveness, insignificance, resentment
Damaging Action: Selfishness
Limiting Beliefs: I am unlovable. I am insignificant. I am flawed.
Joy
Positive Experiences: Happiness, excitement, exhilaration, confidence, strength, wholeness, self-worth
Healthy Actions: Being motivated by truth and love in everything I do. Believing in my power to start each day anew.
Transforming Beliefs: I am a person of worth regardless of any circumstances. I have unbounded hope for the future.
Negative Experiences: Sadness, depression; feeling inferior, worthless, flawed
Limiting Beliefs: I am hopeless. I am worthless. Life is hopeless.
Peace
Positive Experiences: An indescribable feeling that "all is OK.’ Restfulness.
Healthy Actions: Seeking win/win situations in my relationships. Focusing on good things related to the future.
Transforming Beliefs: Wonderful things are in store for me. My future is not tied to the past – I am free. I am ALWAYS OK.
Negative Experiences: Anxiety, worry
Limiting Beliefs: Something bad will happen. The future will be like the past. I´m not OK.
Patience
Positive Experiences: Contentment, satisfaction, security.
Healthy Actions: Content to wait for something better. Waiting in peace.
Transforming Beliefs: Even though I am always learning, growing and getting better, I am satisfied and content right now.
Negative Experiences: Impatience, anger, frustration, insecurity, desire for love substitutes
Limiting Belief: Something must change right now for me to be OK.
Kindness
Positive Experiences: Total and unconditional acceptance of myself and others.
Healthy Actions: A smiling face.
Transforming Beliefs: I love everyone. Everyone is different, but all have worth and value. I want more truth and love relationships.
Negative Experiences: Rejection, hurt, fear
Limiting Beliefs: People will take advantage of me. People are too sensitive.
Goodness
Positive Experiences: Thankfulness and gratitude.
Healthy Actions: Looking for the good – always!
Transforming Beliefs: I am good, forgiven, clean, and built for love.
Negative Experiences: Fear, shame
Limiting Beliefs: I am bad. I am not good enough. I am unforgivable.
Trust and Faith
Positive Experiences: Faith in the past. Trust in the present. Hope in the future.
Healthy Actions: Believing in truth and love always. Being non-judgmental.
Transforming Beliefs: I will receive all good things by surrendering to love and truth. I can lay down control. Life is not always fair – fairness is overrated – I want love.
Negative Experiences: Distrust, being judgmental
Damaging Action: Attempts to pull others down.
Limiting Beliefs: People are out to get me. I must be in control. It´s not fair.
Humility
Positive Experiences: My identity of myself and others – believing the truth about myself. This allows me to love.
Healthy Actions: Loving people and seeking the truth. What other people do is their business.
Transforming Beliefs: I don´t have to try to be someone I´m not in order to be loved. I will believe and live the truth of who I am.
Negative Experiences: Guilt, shame, wrongful pride
Damaging Action: Taking whatever means are necessary to get people to think well of me (manipulation)
Limiting Belief: People must think well of me for me to be OK.
Self-Control
Positive Experience: Quiet confidence.
Healthy Actions: Positive actions empowered by truth and love and my calling in life.
Transforming Beliefs: I am capable. I can do it. I don´t have to get others to do it for me. I have a say over my life.
Negative Experiences: Laziness, entitlement, helplessness
Damaging Actions: Manipulation, deceit, giving up
Limiting Beliefs: I can´t do it. I´m not capable. Others should do it for me. It´s not fair.